Diary of a Daddy's girl

So…. I get asked this question often and I tend to avoid it or use a definition written by someone else because other people always seem so much more articulate, poetic, and thoughtful on the subject. Plus, ‘Daddy’ means different things to different people, and I hate to box others in to my narrow definition. After all, the fun thing about kink is that it’s the opportunity to explore, change, evolve, and make your OWN definitions (something Daddies are coincidentally very good at).

However, I keep getting asks and I suppose it’s time for me to answer this question in my own words…. So… Here goes:

A Daddy is someone who wants to be (or someone who is) a Daddy.

I know this seems overly simplistic, but there is not much that separates a Daddy from a Master or a Sir or any other sort of Dominant but this one important distinction. A Daddy is a Daddy and He or She knows it deep down. I say He or She because a Daddy does not have to be a man or woman, young or old, rich or poor, black or white, gay or straight or any one ‘thing’ in order to be a Daddy (On my blog and for the purposes of my definition I use the pronoun ‘He,” but I think it’s important to note that a Daddy can be anyone).

Another important trait is that Daddies have (or want) someone who is little. Daddies like littles and possess them in a way that is similar to a Master/slave relationship. In fact, many Daddies are so connected to their littles they view themselves as half of a whole (again, littles aren’t necessarily young or female, but I typically use “she” to describe littles.).

So, Who is Daddy?

Quite simply, Daddy is boss and what he says goes. Daddy’s little girl may sometimes tease or be bratty, but at the end of the day, Daddy always gets his way. Daddy doesn’t like being second in line, playing by other people’s rules, or letting anyone or anything interfere with that which is his. This is because he likes to be in control and his most favorite thing to control (besides himself) is his little. Because of this, you will often encounter Daddies that aren’t very good at or interested in sharing their little with other Daddies or Dominants.

Daddy is also a talented caregiver. He nurtures his little in every way imaginable and even in ways that may seem perverse or juvenile to others. Daddy might brush his little’s hair, give her a bath, watch her potty, spoon feed her, kiss her owwies or do any number of caring/nurturing activities. Daddy is fiercely protective and guards his little physically, emotionally and in any way he can. Sometimes Daddy does this to the detriment his own health or sanity, but it’s something he needs. Caring for his little girl makes him happy.

Daddy can also be Sadistic although it’s been my experience that most Daddies aren’t extremely Sadistic (or at least it seems that way). Usually Daddy’s caregiver instinct outweighs his Sadistic streak (but that isn’t *always* the case).

Daddy teaches too and he knows best. He takes the time to establish rules for his little and teaches her about everything from hygiene to fairness to morality and sex. He does this because he takes pride in his little. She is his most prized possession and he wants to show her off to the world.

Daddy is most definitely the object of his little’s lust and sexual appetite. Many littles idolize their Daddy to the point of near obsession. Daddy knows and understands his little’s need for this manic sort of love and attention and he puts lots of energy into engaging her desires and listening to her thoughts, ideas and needs. Sometimes Daddy is strict, but he is always fair and kind to his little girl.

Daddy says ‘no’ when he needs to and tries his best to not to let his little girl know just how much he really wants to say ‘yes’. (Yep, we know and we pout but we love you for it).

Daddy is kinky and sometimes likes to roleplay (Daddy/daughter, Teacher/student, etc) and shares common fetishes with other Daddies and littles including schoolgirls in pigtails, potty play, girls sucking their thumbs, etc. This is because many Daddies are highly creative and smart. They plan, they imagine, they scheme and dream and all that creativity comes out in their sexual play.

Daddy is his little girl’s best friend and most favorite confidant. She can tell or show Daddy anything without fear. Sometimes a little’s fantasies or body or actions or desires will cause her to blush or become shy or confused or upset, but she knows she can trust Daddy with everything.

Lastly, I hate it when people say stuff like “true submissives do this” or “Real Dominant’s don’t do that” but there are some things that a ‘Real Daddy’ would never, ever do. Daddies Don’t:

• Harm.
• Rape (without consent).
• Push hard limits (without consent).
• Punish or give tasks for no reason (unless that’s part of the agreed upon fun).
• Limit her friend or family time. Affect her job performance or career negatively.
• Abuse their power

Daddies live by an unspoken, unwritten, set of rules and code of morality. They do what is right for themselves and for their little girls. Because of this, little’s put their full faith and trust in their Daddies and Daddies try their utmost to not forsake or hurt the amount of trust and faith their littles place in them.